Monday, January 11, 2010

THE MARRIAGE MANUAL Can Help the Wives of Deployed Military Personnel

I asked Laurie Woodward, co-author with her husband BJ Woodward of the nonfiction book THE MARRIAGE MANUAL, to write a guest post about how this book could help couples separated due to deployment. (Laurie and BJ "have been happily married almost 11 years!")

And, yes, the above is an affiliate link. I read THE MARRIAGE MANUAL and believe it offers very valuable information for both husband and wife. You can read my review on the book's Amazon page.

Here's what Laurie wrote, addressed to the wives of deployed men:

First off I want to thank Phyllis Zimbler Miller for inviting me as a guest blogger. If you have not read her book “Mrs. Lieutenant” it is a very enjoyable read.

It was about four different women from different backgrounds forced to live together to keep their sanity while their husbands were preparing for war. The women were young, inexperienced at life, not to mention new to being wives. I couldn’t put it down.

I’m sorry your husbands are away, I can’t say that I know what that feels like, but I believe that you are all very brave and very lucky at the same time.

Wondering why I say lucky...right?

Many women go from their parents' home to college or work, and their small window of alone time gets intercepted by the need to find a husband and then to have kids. Once married "I" becomes "we" and then shortly "we" becomes "us"! No more just you.

You have a window of opportunity right now, starting today, to find out who you are, what you’re good at and what makes you happy. This is your time! I highly recommend you grab it!

If you have children, help them find their passion -- they all like to do something that we say “no” to. What would happen if you said yes? How would your child feel? I’m not talking about touching something hot or running into the street! Forget what you want for them or even what Debbie is doing down the street. Find your passions together and grow.

If you can find your own excitement at this time, when your husband needs you -- you will be much better equipped to be the wife he will appreciate. Otherwise you may always feel like you’re missing out on something. You are more than a wife and a mother!

What keeps a husband happy is a happy wife!

Many marriages start falling apart after the birth of the first child. Women become overwhelmed and unconsciously leave out their husbands because the wives feel like they have lost themselves.

In THE MARRIAGE MANUAL I completely know where you’re going and have given you an easy recipe to cook up for your husband. You will know exactly what to do to make sure he feels loved and appreciated by you.

As women we think we know what men need, but I’m here to tell you that there is another piece! It is everything he wants you to know about him but will never tell you himself.

You can please him and continue to find out what you need at the same time.

If you are worried about what’s in it for me, no problem, he has his very own section in THE MARRIAGE MANUAL! Leave the book out!

When I was alone these were the steps I learned to fall in love with me!

Hope it helps!

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Phyllis Zimbler Miller is the author of the novel MRS. LIEUTENANT and the co-author of the Jewish holiday book SEASONS FOR CELEBRATION. Her newest project is

Phyllis' company does power marketing that combines traditional marketing principles and Internet marketing strategies to put power in your hands.

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